La Femme Boudoir Photography

Fuck it. I'm booking myself a boudoir shoot.

August 4, 2020

Women need to un-learn what society has taught us about playing it safe.

Boudoir session black and white lingerie
As women, we are taught to behave and be a “lady.” I think that means something different to all of us. While some of us straight up reject that mentality, many of us internalize it and have a hard time letting loose. We are taught to think that playing by the rules is fail-safe, so everything else begins to feel too risky and we constantly question our own judgement. Before we take action, we wonder: What will others think? How will I explain myself if I offend someone? What if what I want to do or how I want to be is seen seems silly or weird to others? I think this really is something we need to un-learn.

Boudoir portrait with red lingerie

Letting loose can be difficult for women, but the right company can make it easier.

boudoir portrait from above
I find that for so many women I photograph, letting loose can be a difficult thing. We wear lots of hats, and can hold tons of responsibility. We are moms, wives, daughters, employees, entrepreneurs, and all the other things. We all feel like there are parts of our reputation that we need to protect, whether we are told those things or just assume them internally. Our beliefs might tell us that doing certain things or being a certain way is against the rules. And we are so self conscious about what letting loose might look like to others that we hold our true selves back to feel “safe” and un-judged by those around us. To feel embarrassed could be debilitating to some. Honestly, though, I believe that if we surround ourselves with the right company— supportive, loving, non-judgmental— we will feel more empowered to be exactly who we are without apology. All the laughs, all the silliness, all the sexiness — and dare I say, all the flaws. Because, I'm sorry (not sorry), but what society tells us is “perfect” is friggin boring to me. 

And also, not everyone’s perfect looks the same. 

Imagine this: You, as you are right now, are someone else’s “perfect. You just don’t know it. 

The magic is all in our differences; the little nuances that make you YOU.
Say that, and repeat it. Over and over and over again. 

The Fuck It Moment

 Not every person you encounter is going to feel the same way about you as the next, but you’re not meant to be everyone’s person. (What's that saying? It's quality over quantity.) And when you finally decide that you are done caring what everyone else thinks and you’re ready to focus what makes you feel alive, that’s an incredibly special moment. I call this
 The Fuck It moment.
Most of my clients have either just experienced that moment, say Fuck it, book themselves a session, and bring that mentality with them to their shoot, or experience it soon after we shoot together and tell me they can’t WAIT to shoot again. And that’s what it’s all about for me. 

Perfection is out, YOU are in; bring it all with you and let it shine, baby. 

black and white boudoir portrait
Just a bit about this session. I held a Mother's Day Giveway on Instagram this year, and normally winners are picked at random. It's also usually just women participating because they want the session for themselves. This time, however, a husband nominated his wife for the giveaway, saying how proud he is of her as a new mother and thought that she deserved the heck out of this session. I picked them because it was honestly the sweetest gesture ever, and I felt honored to be able to reward such a genuinely supportive husband. I could not be happier with how the shoot went and how the images came out. Lexi was a pleasure to photograph and both of them really inspired me to write this blog post. This is what boudoir photography is all about. Celebrating the amazing parts of your life, your body, and the relationship you have with yourself and your biggest fan. Xo

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I'm So Nervous! Is A Boudoir Session For Me?

Girl, everyone goes into this being nervous in some way, shape or form. If you weren't nervous I'd be surprised. I'd be nervous! The good news is that those nerves will dissolve within minutes. This session is all about you. We work together to stay within your comfort level, focus on the aspects of you that you're most proud of, and the whole session will feel like a woman-to-woman hangout. You're going to be stunned at how beautiful you look through my lens, and I can't wait to see your reaction! I work with mothers, single ladies, newly single ladies, brides, nurses, girls in their 20s, women in their 50s, and everyone in-between. I'm even hired to photograph other boudoir photographers! A boudoir session is for you, and your grandma too. Read 15 Reasons you deserve your boudoir session if you need more convincing.

How Long Have You Been A Boudoir Photographer?

I've been surrounded by photography my entire life. My parents are Master Photographers, and my brother is also an amazing photographer who specializes in weddings. (You can read more about this in my bio.) I started photographing weddings with my parents when I was a young teenager, and from there I fell in love with portrait photography. Especially portraits of women. I find it so interesting that each woman I work with is so different than the last but at the same time we share so many similar experiences. I knew I wanted to photograph intimate portraits of women long before boudoir photography became a thing. I focused on women's portraiture in early 2011, started La Femme boudoir in 2012, and the brand officially became an establishment in 2017. I've photographed hundreds of women and it never gets old. When I'm not photographing women, I'm photographing past boudoir clients' families and new babies, and I wouldn't change that for anything. You can see some of those non-boudoir portraits here.

What Is Your Retouching Process Like?

While Photoshop is our friend, I’m not going to over-retouch and make you look like someone you’re not. I will use lighting and posing to accentuate your best assets and make you look like the best version of yourself. Photoshop is there to rid the eye of distractions, minimize flyaway hairs, get rid of a light switch or two, and other non-life-altering functions. I will also use Photoshop to smooth out skin, minimize pores, and get rid of lint & wrinkles within reason. Once we narrow your images down to your favorites for your album, we'll go over my retouching process and look at each image a bit more closely. That being said, YOU are beautiful and so are your curves. We are women, our skin is soft, and our bodies are capable of miracles. Let's celebrate all that!

Will You Help Me Prepare For My Shoot?

Absolutely! I'm here to help you from the moment you contact me until the moment you get your products, and beyond. As soon as we lock in our date I'll send you some resources I've written especially for clients of La Femme Boudoir, as well as a Lingerie Guide with tons of links to lingerie shops and blogs for guidance. I want this experience to be as fun, exciting, and stress-free as possible and I do my best to make myself available for any questions and concerns you might have. After our session, I'll have you back in to guide you through the photo selection process. Many times, this is a same-day viewing so you won't even have to wait more than a couple hours to see your images! After our viewing and ordering session, I'll design a custom album layout based on your favorite images, which you'll be able to approve prior to production. Clients have told me that my process is incredibly helpful and stress-free, and that's why they've kept me as their personal photographer since!

What Can I Expect When I Book A Boudoir Session With You?

Fun, excitement, empowerment, and a whole new sense of confidence. Jump over to my blog to read more about What to expect from your boudoir session.