How to Prepare for a Boudoir Session
Preparing for a boudoir session may seem daunting, nevermind actually getting up the courage to book one for yourself. Many ask,
"Should I be booking a boudoir session as a gift for my significant other, or should I use this boudoir session as a confidence booster for myself?"
"And once I book with a boudoir photographer, how do I prepare for a boudoir session? What if I'm not a lingerie-person?"
Questions on how to prepare for a Boudoir Photography Session
There are so many questions that go into booking a boudoir session and how to prepare, and sometimes the uncertainties can lead you to putting it off for a later date. I get it. Every inquiry tells me she has "no idea what she's doing" or "has never done this before", but luckily I do, and I have, and I'm here to demystify the process. I want her to know that if at any point she's extremely nervous, or if she gets cold feet, I'm here to reassure her that she IS ready, and she's going to do great. I don't let my clients flail and I prepare each and every client with all of the information and support she needs to knock her session out of the water. There's no perfect time for this kind of self-care, and getting a session date in the books is where the confidence boost begins.
Boudoir Sessions Should be Liberating
Boudoir sessions are meant to be fun and liberating. It's a special experience you set aside for yourself to feel beautiful & let loose; to be unabashedly you and no one else. Not Mommy, not wife, not employee; you're here to do this for you. That being said, it'll take the right kind of photographer for you to allow yourself to let go of your insecurities and embrace what makes you uniquely alluring. You need a boudoir photographer who listens well and sees what you might not be able to see, but yearn to.
It's not just about the Boudoir Photography Portraits
Yes, any professional photographer should know how to take a beautiful picture. But what do they typically take photos of? What kinds of portraits do they specialize in? Would a newborn photographer know how to light your body to accentuate your best features, pose you in a way to make it all look effortless, and make you feel like a goddess all at the same time? She might be able to swaddle your baby to sleep, but she probably isn't the right photographer for your boudoir session.
You should find yourself a Boudoir photographer - someone trained in posing and lighting women to emphasize their best curves and features. Someone who knows how to talk to women, relate to them, and help them capture those intimate intricacies that make you, you. And once you find that photographer, you might need some guidance on boudoir outfits and whether or not to get a spray tan beforehand (skip it!) And even after you find a photographer you trust, and something to wear, how will you know how to move your body during your boudoir session? You wonder, "Will I have to pose myself to look sexy?" So many unknowns, and unknowns can be quite frightening if they go unanswered. Good news: I'm here to help.
You search for a "Boudoir Photographer Near Me"
You Google it, you find a female boudoir photographer in Hartford, Connecticut. You decide If not now, then when? You book that session, and you're on your way to the best confidence boost ever. You deserve this experience, and I want you to make the most of it!
IS A BOUDOIR SESSION RIGHT FOR ME?
Boudoir photography sessions are for every woman, and I say that with confidence. They are not reserved for women who are getting married, and they are not reserved for any other particular part of your life. They're not just for women under 40, and they are not for putting off until you've lost those 20 pounds. If I had a dollar for every time a woman has said that to me... And boudoir sessions are also not just meant to be a one-time thing.
As women, we go through so many seasons of life. As we evolve, so do our minds and bodies. The way we thought and looked when we were 25 is much different than how we think at 35, and so on. How we looked and thought while we were single is much different than how we look and think after we got married and had kids. Our values change and so do our principles, styles, and thoughts.
Using Boudoir Photography to Document the Important Stages in Life
I did my first boudoir photography session right before I had my son (when I was two months pregnant, actually!) Pregnancy injected a bit of action into my chest that I never had otherwise and I was a bit nervous about how my body might change for childbirth. It's so much fun to look back on that album and see how my body has changed since, and I'm so happy I had myself photographed when I did. Not because my body was "worse" after pregnancy, it's was just different. I did my second boudoir session after having my daughter (which was a twin pregnancy) and my body changed in a big way once again. I am so grateful that I did another session, because surprise surprise... 7 years later, my body is different yet again, and so is my overall view on life. My most recent session, done in the past year, is my favorite shoot yet. I thought I loved my life then, and I love it even more and for different reasons now.
I'm documenting myself, as I am, at essential stages of my life, and I plan to do many more sessions as my life progresses. I've never felt better about what my body has given me, and that deserves a celebration - many celebrations.
FIND YOURSELF A BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER WHOSE WORK YOU LOVE
Boudoir is unlike any other kind of photography. Wedding photographers, newborn photographers, and family photographers are just not going to give you the results a boudoir photographer would. A trained boudoir photographer is trained will know how to accentuating the right parts of a woman after listening to and getting to know her by asking the right questions.
Boudoir photographers are trained to use light and posing to emphasize the best parts about a woman while de-emphasizing the elements that don't need to be be focused on. You want to be able to trust the tried and true process of your photographer so you can let loose and know you look as sexy as you feel in the process. You want a photographer who takes the time to get to know you and knows how to bring your sexy out in a natural, easy way.
Keep in mind, working with a specialized boudoir photographer means you will be paying for that expertise and care-free feeling, knowing that she will deliver the feeling and photos you're hoping for. Boudoir photography is an investment, and should be treated as such.
SHOULD I BOOK A BOUDOIR SESSION AS A GIFT OR KEEP IT FOR MYSELF?
OR both? Here's my take on this subject:
If you're doing this as a gift for a significant other, also think of it as a gift to yourself. Are you a bride doing this as a gift for your future husband or wife? Keep their tastes in mind as well as yours. Tell your photographer about what they love about you, but also tell her what you love about yourself.
As the wise ones say, we're our own worst critics, and they are correct. Maybe your spouse loves your curves more than you do. Of course, there are parts of your body you might like less than others, but what did you go through to get to where you are? Did you inherit your curves from the mother you look up to? I'm sure you don't see her curves like she sees them, but you how little her curves mean to you when it comes to why you love her and how you see her. That's how your loved ones see you. There are so many benefits to being curvy; embrace them. There are women out there who are lacking in that area and are so envious of you! Show those babies off. Revel in them. Did you go through a positive transformation and come out of it with a few stretch marks? Celebrate them.
You are where you are because of where you've been. This session is just as much a gift to yourself as it is a gift to someone special. You'll be so thankful for this experience, especially once the photos are revealed, and you'll have the images to look back on for years to come.
HOW TO CHOOSE BOUDOIR LINGERIE OR NON-LINGERIE BOUDOIR OUTFITS
Lingerie comes in many shapes and sizes, just like us women. What looks great on one person doesn't necessarily look great on the next. It's so imperative to know your body type and choose pieces that compliment your specific look. Want to accentuate your bottom? Boy shorts or "cheekies" will be your BFF. Are you most proud of your cleavage? Save the lacy bralettes for the itty bitties and wear a wired bra with more support to compliment your vavooms. Are you the more casual type who wouldn't be caught dead in a babydoll? Let's go with a slouchy sweater or a loose button-down shirt -- or even just a white sheet. Alternatively, maybe you've always wanted to wear lingerie but never had the guts to wear it in front of someone else.
Believe it or not, this is so common. You buy beautiful lingerie, you tuck it away for a special occasion, but you never have the guts to put it on, so it sits there for years and years untouched. I hear it all too often. Well now is your chance to rock the lacies and garter belts, girls. Let's get sexy with it! Who knows, maybe this experience will give you the confidence you've always needed to wear it IRL.
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Three boudoir photography location ideas for your session
I would say the three most popular places to shoot a boudoir session would be in your home, in a hotel or Airbnb, or a studio. There are upsides and downsides to each.
HOME
If you're looking for the coziest option, that would be your home. You have everything you need-- unlimited outfit ideas, your hair and makeup supplies for touch-ups, personal items-- and you won't have to worry about forgetting anything if we're shooting at home. It's also very personal. We'd be using your bed and blankets, and that can add to the sentimental value of your images. Especially if this is a gift for a significant other.
STUDIO
The studio is great because the photographer will have all of their tools and lighting at their disposal. You also won't have to clean and prep your home for a boudoir session! You can pack up your things and head to a location primed for portrait sessions. You want to make sure that the style of your photographer's studio or set matches with the style of photography you're looking for. If it doesn't, or it seems too contrived you may consider bringing along items from home to add to the style and make it more personal -- your comforter and pillows, your plant, some decor from your room, etc. Your photographer should be able to incorporate these items and be flexible enough to help you create images you'll love.
HOTEL / AIRBNB
Confession: I LOVE shooting at AirBnBs! With the right booking you could end up in a super chic apartment in the city with a fantastic view, or a rustic cabin with acres to work with and out in the middle of nowhere. I love being thrown into new locations with lots of inspiration. Some photographers don't. You'll have to coordinate this with whomever you hire. You should also make sure your Airbnb is a private location and not a room in someone's home. You'll want the entire house or apartment to yourself and the photographer. Hotels can work too; however, you'll have to pay strict attention to the decor.
Hotel decor can be quite generic, and many hotels bolt their artwork to the walls so it cannot be removed unless possibly later in retouching. Booking a hotel or Airbnb will add extra cost to your session (clients are usually responsible for booking fees) but could result in ridiculously beautiful images in places you couldn't otherwise afford to live in. Do your research, and you could find a gem!
I HAVE A BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER, A LOCATION, AND BOUDOIR OUTFITS; NOW HOW DO I UNLEASH THE SEXY?
One of the biggest misconceptions about boudoir sessions is that clients think they have to know how to be sexy. Like, they have to channel their inner Giselle Bündchen somehow that they didn't even know was there and know exactly how to move in front of a camera. Come on. Nope. That's crazy. Boudoir photographers are trained to help you in this area. It's our JOB to direct and guide you through a session. We know how easily even just hand positioning can make or break a mood. And that if you rock your hips backward instead of toward the camera, your waist will appear smaller and change the whole balance of an image.
Take this opportunity to pamper yourself
Have your hair and makeup done for your boudoir session, give yourself a chance to feel comfortable and confident, and your images to reflect that. "Well, what if I feel stupid?" you think. Well, sexy is not just how you look; it's your attitude. Let go of your preconceived ideas about what it means to be sexy. Don't act for the camera; be yourself and think about your inspiration for doing this session in the first place. If you decided to do this as a gift for your husband, imagine your husband's reaction to the photos. Imagine yourself looking at him instead of at a camera. You might end up laughing just at the thought of this, but that laugh is going to be genuine, and that smiling photo might be the one you love most.
If you decide to book a boudoir session because your future self is going to appreciate the images, then imagine yourself looking back at your boudoir album in awe. Imagine that feeling of gratitude you'll have for owning these beautiful portraits of yourself. When you look at the camera, that twinkle in your eye will show, and you'll remember that moment years later when you look back at the images. Not only is this session vital to you right now, but it's going to be even more significant to you years down the road. You'll be thankful you did this for yourself.
I sincerely hope that this post has helped you move in the direction of booking yourself a much deserved boudoir session.
You only live once, girl. Make it count and count your blessings.
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